Five Ways to Start Happily Embracing Change
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” Jim Rohn
Earlier today I had an uneasy conversation with a staff member who was worried about change. Even though he realises that he is safe, he fears change for no particular reason or at least no reason that he can articulate at this time.
This seems so common amongst many executives and what I commonly find through Matrix Therapeutic Coaching is that the issue with change stems from an experience locked in the subconscious and is uneasiness is obsolete and no longer relevant. Fear, uncertainty and discomfort can be used as our compass toward growth.
Change is an act or a process through which something becomes different.
Change can be helpful in many ways to steer us to an ever better life, help us find even more happiness, increase our confidence, have career progression, move to places that are new and interesting. Everyone knows the stories of other people who have embraced seemingly impossible negative change and used this as a resolve to bring out the best in themselves and others. Pure experience has no meaning, the only meaning is the meaning we each give it. This meaning is determined by our values, life experience, rules, the context amongst other factors.
“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” Brian Tracy
So how can we happily embrace change? Here are 5 easy, everyday strategies.
1. Look for a higher meaning in every change. Ask yourself what else could this mean? How could I see this in a way that will help me achieve what I really want?
2. Use a scheduler to “book in” all changes you need to make. For example I had a client recently who has a significant back injury and needs to take her healthcare seriously. She has booked it into her schedule. For the next year she has 52 appointments scheduled for treatment.
3. Ask a trusted friend to help you understand changes from another angle. Put them in charge of helping you find the “gold” in change you are concerned about. Make sure you choose someone who thinks positively and can help you progress.
4. Research how other people have dealt with the same change that you are faced with. The internet provides a great source of ideas. Recently I had a client who was concerned about a restructure at work, and so he googled the problem and found some great blogs and forums that completely opened the boundaries he had attached to the problem giving him great solutions.
5. Appreciate that how you respond to change is entirely your choice. There is no right or wrong. Take a kind approach to yourself. It’s okay to be concerned, and the best way to combat this is to be the master of your mind.
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barak Obama
So what if change is still a problem? Share your concerns with someone who can help you, or find professional assistance.
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Lipstick Learning is an initiative of Sydney based business leader, Certified NLP Trainer (ABNLP), entrepreneur and Master NLP Practitioner Madelaine Cohen. Sharing information and joining forces with people who choose to lead. Madelaine has more than two decades of inspiration from her businesses in consumer products, sports marketing, executive coaching and healthcare. She takes a leading role in mentoring executives and training business leadership in large and small enterprises. Why? Inspire people to lead and together we can create lifetimes of health and happiness. To find out how you can lead with even more authenticity and ease, contact Madelaine through Lipstick Learning. Madelaine welcomes connection and networking so if you have something to ask or share, go for it.